As you can see, the quadrants for Attachment Theory are the same as those in the OK Corral. TA’s OK Corral of attachment is based on Bowlby’s model. Side by side with TA psychology, you can see the similarity. Also, from these models, you can see good words for attachment-related personalities. The language of TA child theory was developed to help people talk about their kids in a language that includes them, never behind closed doors, with language that shames them or classifies them negatively. Say what you say, and say it in front of the child, using simple language.

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Describing behaviour, rather than labeling a child with a diagnosis, is a good parenting skill to practice. A diagnosis is a constant reminder of a script. This will deter normal development. The teenage years are already a volatile time, when many problems that are part of normal development. Every individual gains resilience and maturity by navigating the problems of life on life’s terms. Puberty is the beginning of many learning cycles called gestalts. A gestalt is a learning cycle, and at the beginning, in growth, there is often a normal regression when getting started. This is a time when unhappiness promotes change; the world must change, or the individual must change. At this time, people oscillate between feeling OK and feeling not OK. When an individual begins the learning cycle, that process where life is messy and either the world must change or the individual must change, suicide is always a possibility.