Detransitioners very rarely admit that they detransitioned. Who would listen? The activists are prone to confirmation bias. Trans activists often do not listen to parents, often because the youth activist is positioning the parent as an obstacle to their growth (the Persecuter position); the drama triangle is already set.[70] 

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Outside of the triangle, many doctors, teachers, parents, siblings, etc., have remained in the Complicit Researcher Position. When bystanders fail to stand up for what is right, they aid and abet the perpetrators. This is also called the “Bully Triangle.” In a Drama, players are addicted to people and their problems and bully one another. Even those watching (Bystander position) are hurt by the Game, having witnessed it, and remained frozen.

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If you find yourself in a situation, reveal the Game and then walk away. You can’t win. The Game is based on discounts and outright lies. If it is not safe to walk away or call the Game, make an escape plan. You can’t win with a liar who is “Playing Stupid”. To be complicit in the bullying is to help the bully. In a family system or culture like this, the bully wins. Children interpret these losses of autonomy through the eyes of the victim (mom or dad, brother, sister, etc), putting the child bystander in their own trauma, often called “survivor’s guilt.”